Yesterday, I was helping my 6yo with his Mandarin exam. As it was not his cup of tea, he put up a lot of resistance.
While he was rolling on the sofa complaining 😭 (so cute!), I ventured, "How would you feel if you can't answer a single question during the exam?"
Well, he paused, little brain 🧠 struggling mightily to comprehend the ramifications of getting a zero 0️⃣ in the exam… then continued rolling and complaining.
So, I had a deeper thought about his dreams. He wanted to be a teacher, too, so I said, "Can you imagine your students praising and asking you how to be great at Mandarin 👨🏫?"
Immediately, he got up and went to work. When he correctly recited a sentence, I said, "Wow, do remember how so you can help your future students!" That really kept him going!
In the end, he got 60% on the exam, but I was mighty proud of his hard work.
📢 When we want people to get something done, there are two ways to do it: Tell them the consequences if they don't, or sell them a vision of a pleasant outcome.
The research is pretty clear on this. 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗮 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗮 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲.
That's not to say consequences and punishment have no place in our Parenting toolbox. There will be times where our kids need to be deterred from harmful (or hurtful) behaviors and actions.
☺ This weekend, I'll be talking about reinforcement and consequences in my Parenting Workshop, where I'll also be addressing pressing issues including:
✅ How to help my Child overcome gadget addiction
✅ How do I help my Child to be honest and stop lying
✅ How do I motivate my Child, who is lost and directionless
✅ How to finally love myself, as a Parent and person
𝗧𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗞𝗲𝗮𝗻'𝘀 𝗜𝗻 𝗗𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗵 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽
Date: Saturday and Sunday, 30 and 31 October 2021
Time: 10AM - 1PM per day (3 hours per day)
Price: Use code MERDEKA30 for a discount to 𝗥𝗠𝟯𝟴𝟴 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆
Register here: https://teacherkean.com/workshop/paid/
I'm eternally grateful for the chance to serve Parents, their Children (and generations to come), so I am infinitely excited to see you this weekend!
