Starting again doesn't mean you'll start from zero.
When I received the THIRD appeal rejection email, something snapped. For the first time in a year, I became ANGRY.
** Earlier, something important was taken away from me. It affected my professional and personal life, and suffice to say I was crushed.
Fortunately, I had the support of friends. With their advice and encouragement, I overcame the trial. Wheeee!
𝗦𝗼, 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝗪𝗲 𝗗𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗥𝗲𝗷𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻?
There are many viable methods, of course, and my friends Surain and Andreas cover them well.
But the technique which really served me this month requires a notebook and a pen (or at least, a vivid and disciplined mind!)
On the left side, write how you feel. For me, it looked like this:
"𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝘂𝗻𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗿!" and "𝗜 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗱!"
On the right side, ask yourself:
"𝗞𝗲𝗮𝗻, 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲, 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝗻𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂?"
"𝗞𝗲𝗮𝗻, 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀?"
In my case, the answers were clearly "NO". I realized that I was too obsessed with ONE specific aspect of my life and that overall, my life was still pretty great!
This helped me understand that if I started afresh, I would not be starting from zero. 𝗡𝗼 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗺𝘆 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀, 𝗺𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, 𝗺𝘆 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
** With your help, I got up, and I got to work. And fortunately, when I embraced my lesson (instead of ranting), the important thing was restored to me.
Thank you, everyone, for your love during this challenging time. Know that I will always do the same for you.
